This is the fourth of 12 “amazing” installments of “12 days that amaze.” I am pushing myself to write 12 posts about things that amaze me leading up to the St. Baldrick’s Foundation fundraiser in Chicago that Karin, Deb and I are participating in. In doing so, I must also be open to the everyday amazing things that happen around me.
What Could Be
I try to keep an eye out for (and my heart open to) the magic in life: happy coincidences, acts of kindness, words of wisdom, etc. This is easier on some days than others. I’m having a less-easy day today.
Today I’m thinking about some of the things that “could be,” particularly as it relates to my family. My step-son could be a lot happier. My middle son could be more self-reliant and accountable. My Little Professor could be learning more. My relationship with Karin could be better. We all could do, have, and be…
I… could do, have, and be more–for my family and for myself. More engaged at work, more satisfied with my life, more patient with the kids, more involved in their play… The list goes on and on.
It starts to feel overwhelming. Too many issues, rooted too deeply. It can make a guy want to look for some quick fixes, or worse yet, escape. (Skyrim, anyone?) But there are small steps I can take right now that will make a difference, help me feel less overwhelmed. I can:
- talk it out with a friend (thank you, Sheryl)
- express gratitude (see above)
- congratulate a friend on an accomplishment (congrats, Fran!)
- make a phone call to my doctor (check)
- write (in progress)
Make a Connection
Most of these things involve a connection with someone else, but they all start with me. Interesting, no? Amazingly, with each small step, I feel less overwhelmed. By taking action, I’m slowly regaining control over my thoughts and emotions. I frequently want to make things better or wish that things were easier, but intention is impotent without action.
Action, even–or especially–when taking small steps in the direction of your goals, is amazing. Because who ever accomplished anything without taking that first step?
Baby steps, my friends–they lay the groundwork for change.